In the secular view, foreplay seems to be about satisfying women's desires and men don't like foreplay. In reality, this is not the case, men enjoy foreplay, and again foreplay can bring many benefits.
Why do some people ignore foreplay?
Some men ignore foreplay when they are more focused on the timing of penetration and intercourse, or when they don't have time. For example, wanting to avoid the problem of rapid ejaculation, they will opt for early penetration in an attempt to prolong penetration. But this doesn't enhance the sexual experience and can miss out on intimate time with your partner, or even bring about worse results.
The benefits of foreplay?
1. longer sex
Foreplay can extend the duration of sex, with more time to experience and enjoy it. With age, or sex becomes routine, then varied foreplay can enhance the sexual experience while bringing freshness and excitement.
2. Getting the body in the mood faster
Although foreplay is usually for women, men also need foreplay, being kissed, stroked, talking dirty, etc. These can be very good to increase sexual arousal and sexual tension, so that the body faster into the state of sexual arousal.
3. Increase sexual intimacy
Foreplay is a good way to tease your partner, through kissing, hugging, touching, eye contact, etc., can increase sexual intimacy with each other. It brings you closer to each other and enhances your emotions.
Creative Ideas for Foreplay
Here are some creative ideas for foreplay, so that your sex life can say goodbye to monotony and boredom.
1. Send erotic text messages
Erotic text messages are not only good for boosting sexual arousal and tension. It can be a great way to spice things up even if you and your partner are separated. Keep the excitement going long before sex. Erotic texting is not just about words, you can also send sexy pictures of you.
2. Showering together
Bathing together with your partner not only cleanses each other's bodies and makes them healthier. It can also be very relaxing and comforting.
3. Erotic Massage
Set up a quiet, comfortable environment, dimming the lights, creating an atmosphere that can enhance the immersion of each other. For example, lighting aromatherapy candles, playing sexy music, erotic audio or video, using scented massage oil, etc. These can not only enhance the atmosphere and experience of erotic massage. But also enhance the libido and increase sexual pleasure.
4. Mutual masturbation
Mutual masturbation brings great visual impact and enjoyment, while at the same time you can get to know your partner better, preferred stimulation methods and what positions and ways to masturbate in. If you feel shy, you can blindfold one of them, which can also further enhance the stimulation.
5. Use sex toys
Sex toys can make bedroom play a lot more fun and there are very many different types, features, colors and other different options of sex toys that can be then tried and found for your own pleasure. Sex toys can not only be used as foreplay props, to help better and faster into the state of sexual arousal.
6. Watching pornography together
Pornography, can be very good to help us explore our own preferences, but also to communicate with their partners to understand each other's favorite type of pornography and why they like it, favorite plots or behaviors and so on. Pornography can help us better explore our preferences and sexual fantasies.
7. BDSM
If you want to try and bring BDSM into the bedroom, it is vital to communicate with your partner to ensure that they agree. If your partner agrees, you can learn about it together and understand the risks involved. Or develop a yes, no, maybe form to get a better understanding of each other's likes, and dislikes, etc.
Remembering that communication isn't a one-off, either before or during sex, setting up a safe word can better protect each other. Try starting with small things such as blindfolds, spankings or simple bondage, provided it is done with your partner's consent and safety in mind.
8. Sensory play
Sensory play is the practice of amplifying one or more senses, or depriving one sense to amplify others, to achieve more intense stimulation and pleasure. Examples include blindfolds, earplugs, mouth balls, or trying out different materials to stimulate skin sensations.