Sex in pornographic films is always effortless, such as perfect lighting, intense sexual positions and long-lasting stamina. But life isn't a porn film, and achieving a scene or plot from a porn film in reality can be overwhelming. But the good news is that it's possible to bring confidence and skill, to reality, and here are specific ways to make sex more passionate while keeping it fun and comfortable.
1. Record
The big difference between real sex and porn, is that porn stars record videos of themselves having sex. You may not have the experience of recording videos and you don't have all the fancy equipment, but you can still try to record your craziest sex on video. This can be a great memory for you, although you may feel shy when you try it for the first time.
2. Foreplay
In porn, usually sex skips foreplay and starts straight away. But good sex starts long before penetration with teasing, flirting, and so on.
3. Sexy Lingerie
In porn people always wear sexy lingerie, or role play costumes. Regardless of your gender, you can wear nice clothes and flirt with your partner. Not only can you show off your sexiness and confidence better, but you can also make sex more exciting and arousing.
4. Master Dirty Words
Many porn stars use dirty, flirtatious words in porn movies, which will increase the excitement and thrill because sex is not just physical, it's mental and you can enjoy it in many other ways. Use dirty words to tell your partner how much you desire and want them and encourage your partner to join in.
But before you start, make sure your partner is interested and agreeable to it so that you don't make them uncomfortable or angry when you talk dirty, and start experimenting with small things to find what you feel most comfortable with each other.
5. Focus on Pleasure, Not Performance
Pornography emphasises performance, but true intimacy is less about connection and pleasure. Don't worry about whether you look perfect or whether every move is intact, which takes away from the fun of sex. Instead focus on what feels good, living in the moment, enjoying the sensations as well as letting go of your high expectations, etc.
In reality sex is messy, spontaneous and sometimes a little awkward, accept its imperfections to better enjoy its pleasurable sensations.
6. Use Props or Sex Toys
Props and sex toys are often found in erotic scenes, which help to enhance the feelings bring more stimulation, for example, you can try, using a blindfold can increase the sense of anticipation and amplify your sensual feelings. Lubricants make everything smoother, increasing comfort and reducing friction and discomfort.
Sex toys can do a lot for your sex life, adding more excitement and freshness. If you want to try new toys, rose toy is very exciting, add more excitement and adventure, stimulate sensitive areas of the body and are easy to adjust the angle.
7. Try BDSM
When it comes to porn, the BDSM category is one of the most popular categories that people love to watch, so if you want to try it out, why not suggest a romantic and passionate BDSM night to your partner? But before you do that talk about each other's preferences and boundaries, find out what each other wants as well as what you can try. And establish a safeword, which will help you explore better as well as keep you safe.
Also there are all sorts of different techniques for exploring BDSM, but start off gently and take it one step at a time. One thing that should not be overlooked at the end of the session is aftercare, this is very useful, even if it's just simple hugs, kisses and snuggles, it can increase intimacy and connection.
8. Focus on Endurance and Speed
Porn often makes it seem like non-stop, high-speed thrusting is the goal, but true pleasure comes from rhythm, control and stamina.
For example, slowing down will gradually build up to a more intense orgasm. And varying the speed, alternating between fast and slow will produce exciting sensations.
Take a break and focus on other forms of pleasure - use your hands, mouth or sex toys to keep the excitement going. Of course, you can also try an endurance exercise such as the rim technique, a technique where a short pause before orgasm is used to prolong the pleasure.
9. Watch Porn with Your Partner
If you want to have an exciting and exhilarating sexual experience with your partner, then watching porn together is a great idea. It's a great way to get inspired and learn about each other's preferences, but also to learn new techniques and discover new things you want to try in the bedroom.
Final Thoughts
Making love like a porn star isn't about perfection - it's about confidence, connection, and knowing what really turns you and your partner on. By focusing on pleasure, exploration and communication, you can create exciting experiences that feel as exciting and stress-free as any porn film scene.