Many people ask me what sex feels like. Although I want to tell them the specific answer, it is like tasting cake. Everyone has different tastes and preferences. Moreover, the feeling of sex is completely different from person to person. Even for the same person, age changes will bring different feelings. Even emotions, sleep, menstrual cycle, health status, feelings towards partners, etc., will affect how we feel during sex.
How does it feel to have sex for the first time?
People generally feel bad about the first time they have sex. When they have sex for the first time, they are obsessed with real sex, feel confused and helpless during sex, and even feel pain. They can't describe the feeling in words. Even so, it will not prevent us from continuing to explore sex.
Let's talk about the definition of sex. The general view in society is that sex refers to the insertion of the penis into the vagina. This definition is very one-sided and even narrow. It seems to be only for heterosexuals, and many people have never experienced this kind of sexual intercourse. This definition is not of any reference to sexual minorities. There are many ways to experience sexual pleasure, such as mutual masturbation, oral sex, fingering, anal sex, dry humping, whatever you like.
Is it normal to feel pain during intercourse?
It is not normal. Sex should not make you feel pain. If you don't like this feeling, please stop immediately and tell your partner. Before starting sex, pay attention to foreplay to make the body excited enough, and the vagina secretes more lubricants to prepare for intercourse. Applying an appropriate amount of lubricant can help you reduce the discomfort caused by friction and enhance pleasure. Try other sexual behaviors such as oral sex and masturbation, which generally do not cause pain.
Sexual pain may be caused by some health problems, such as endometriosis, vaginismus, etc. These diseases can cause pain during insertion. You can seek help from a doctor or sex therapist, or try other sexual behaviors.
Bad sexual experiences in the past have caused trauma to the body and mind, which will lead to fear of sex, loss of interest, or even pain. Communicate with your partner in time and seek help from professionals.
The first time you have sex, you usually don't have a good sex experience. Don't have too high expectations, and don't doubt yourself or sex because of it. You deserve to enjoy happiness. Many things about the first time you have sex are not absolute. For example, the first time you have sex, you may not feel pain, and you may not bleed. If you enjoy the first time you have sex, there is nothing wrong with it.
Does sex feel good?
The most direct thing about sex is that it brings us pleasure and happiness. In addition to the stimulation that brings pleasure, the hormones released by orgasm, such as dopamine, endorphins, oxytocin, prolactin, etc., are natural hormones that make us feel happy and relaxed.
If you don't feel good during sex, there may be a problem. Please don't force yourself. You can stop at any time and try to communicate with your partner to solve it. If you are trying new things, such as new positions, new sex toys, and new sex environments, it is normal to not feel very good at the beginning. If you feel very nervous, uncomfortable, and want to stop having sex, you can do so.
What does sex feel like for women?
Everyone has different feelings about sex, or special experiences and experiences. What follows is a very interesting description of what people really feel about sex.
“It's like a rollercoaster ride imo. The build-up, the anticipation, the drop that you feel it in the stomach once you arrive at the top and go down. The physical and psychological sensation of this specific ride is very similar to what sex feels like. At least, that's my interpretation of it”
“If done right with foreplay and love it feels like a million times better then scratching a really itchy spot first then after like the most euphoric mind numbing experience in the best way. It also with my husband heals things I didn’t know could be healed in that way. Sometimes I tear up because he fills a space I didn’t know needed filled both physically and mentally. When done right it’s a spiritual experience for me, I feel healed, beautiful, wanted and loved. Done wrong it feels like a violation into my body.”
Final Thoughts
In short, the feeling of sex varies from person to person and is also affected by other factors. It depends not only on your condition and partner, but also on different sexual activities and environments. Choose to have sex with your partner in a comfortable and stress-free environment. If you feel uncomfortable during the process, you can stop at any time, pay attention to your feelings, and take it slow.