With the popularity of "Fifty Shades of Grey", BDSM has entered the public eye, and bondage is increasingly seen in beds. What is bondage? So how can a newbie explore bondage safely?
What is bondage?
So what exactly is bondage? Bondage is a form of BDSM in which a partner is bound. It can be simple or complex and can be physically restrained in a variety of ways, including using ropes, handcuffs, restraints, or self-adhesive bandages.
How to safely explore bondage?
1. Self-education
If you are starting a new activity, it is necessary to understand its content, boundaries, and caveats. Especially in an era where information is so convenient, and there are many blogs, forums or videos about bondage to help newbies get started.
2. Talk openly
If you're going to try bondage with your partner, make sure you agree on a safe place and time. Talk openly with your partner about this matter. If your partner is interested in it, that's great. But if your partner is not interested or is afraid, please don't force it and respect the other person's wishes. After all, bondage is not suitable for everyone, and you should not be pressured by your partner or other people. Sometimes it is good to return to simple and beautiful sex.
3. Understand each other’s boundaries and preferences
It is important to understand each other's preferences and boundaries during open discussions. You can also prepare a yes and no list in advance, which will help you understand each other's boundaries and record and save them better. When you first start to explore bondage, don’t try extreme or dangerous behaviors all at once. Take your time and start from the most acceptable step by step. In the process, gradually understand your partner and their opinions on some behaviors. Preferences.
4. Create a safe word
It is very important to choose a suitable safe word. Safe words can ensure that you will not be harmed or the situation will worsen during sex. So what is a suitable safe word? The necessary condition for a safe word is to be able to disrupt the current atmosphere, such as red, yellow, green, etc. As a partner, you should observe your partner's reaction in a timely manner during the process and ask your partner how they feel. If your partner shouts the safe word, stop immediately and try to calm them down.
5. Understand the risks
It's important to understand the risks before you start trying it, understand the risks that restraints may pose, and take preparation and safety measures in advance to prevent accidents. Of course, as a novice, my suggestion is to start with small and safe things. For example, novices can try binding tape, which is safe, convenient, compact, and allows you to try various positions. Avoid binding some more dangerous positions, such as the neck, to avoid suffocation, etc. Know the risks ahead of time and avoid some dangerous positions.
6. Non-verbal safety
If you or your partner wears a gag, you cannot shout the safe word. In this case, you can inform your partner through a non-verbal response. Of course, before starting, it is necessary to communicate with your partner and confirm safe actions. Like a bell, or a handy dildo, etc.
7. Medical safety
For the safety of you and your partner, it’s important to clean and disinfect your toys before you start. This not only ensures each other’s health, but also allows you to enjoy sex more focused and have a better sexual experience. At the same time, my suggestion is to prepare a medical first aid box with some basic first aid items, lubricants, etc., to ensure the safety of yourself and your partner in unexpected situations.
8. Aftercare
Aftercare is one of the most important parts of kink, and the quality of aftercare will greatly affect how well your partner experiences the sexual experience. It is normal to feel vulnerable after sex, so we should provide physical and mental care to our partners afterwards. For example, you can try to hug each other after sex to comfort each other, give each other an essential oil massage, and Go take a bath together, etc. Of course, it’s also important to clean your body, sex toys, and bedding.
Final thoughts
As bondage becomes more and more popular and more people are interested in it, it becomes important for newbies to explore bondage safely. Communicate openly with your partner and confirm your partner's consent before restraint. During this process, you must respect your partner's wishes. If your partner shouts the safe word, stop immediately to appease your partner's emotions. It's also important to be prepared with aftercare and a first aid kit.